**Warning: review contains vulgar language**
Product Type: Book/E-Book
Author: Mark Manson
A Counterintuitive Approach To Living A Good Life
In today’s day and age, life’s common inconveniences build up, and we find ourselves struggling not to either shut down, or implode from frustration. After finding and reading this book, I HAD to do a The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck review.
Whether it be your boss yelling at you again for not doing your work exactly as he/she wants it, or your car broke down and now your toddler has puked in the back seat, we all struggle to keep ourselves together as we are bombarded by unexpected and inconvenient things called life.
In Mark Mansons book, The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck, he talks to many of these exact instances where we wonder why we do it every day, and then gives us an unexpected twist to learn from.
The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck is all about embracing lives suck-ness, and learning to select what it is you allow to affect you day in and day out.
Everyone has shitty lives, because life is shitty. But its about how you perceive this shitty life that helps you move forward from it happily.
In my The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck review, I’ll make sure to touch base on who Mark Manson is, and just how popular this book is. I’ll then give what I call a “subtle review” for a not so subtle book!
Join me in taking a look at my The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck review…
About Mark Manson
Mark Manson is an American self-help author, blogger, and entrepreneur.
He is the author of the website markmanson.net and two different books, one of which we are taking a look at today.
He grew up in Austin, Texas and went to school and lived in Boston.
Once graduated from Boston University in 2007, he started an online business and traveled the world for about 7 years. He now calls New York his home.
Mark mentioned numerous times that his main goal has always been to write for himself first and foremost. He started his blog in 2007, and as he got better it adopted into a kind of marketing for a dating advice business.
By 2010 he really got serious about writing, and started his markmanson.net website.
His writing focuses on helping people feel better about themselves, even if what he says/teaches contradicts many other scientifically proven methods of self-help.
Mark believes that the best skill to acquire in life is resilience, and you get that through experiencing difficult situations and challenges. Happiness is about appreciating the difficulties in life and learning to deal with them.
The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck…
Mark created The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck in 2016.
It’s a self-help book created for people who hate self-help books; people who get along better with some harsh reality, than someone telling them sit in their big comfy chair and take deep breaths.
Mark considers his book as much a pat on the back, as a slap to the face. It has been called the truly no BS guide to flourishing in a crazy world.
The book has sold almost 2 million copies in its first year, is on the #1 New York Times bestseller list, and has been translated into almost 25 different languages.
In The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck, Mark presents an entirely new approach to personal development, and focuses not on getting rid of your problems, but finding better problems to deal with.
More so, it’s not about avoiding failure, but in getting better at failing itself. Lastly it’s about not knowing everything there is to know, but being comfortable that you truly know nothing at all!
Most self-help books focus on how you can better yourself, but Mark focuses on the fact that maybe loving what you’re NOT good at, is indeed the way to be better at what you’re not good at.
At the end of the day, you’re not suppose to give a fuck about what your bad at, but to love what you suck at and get better from there.
The Subtle Summary, For A Not-So Subtle Book
As the title of this section indicates, this book is not subtle. And it drives home a lot of very not-so-subtle confirmations.
Not giving a fuck doesn’t mean being indifferent, it means being comfortable being different.
Unfortunately you cannot just not give a fuck about anything, you have to give a fuck about somethings.
It’s hard to be an important life changing presence for someone but not to be an embarrassment and joke to others. Embrace that you’ll never make everyone happy.
If you find yourself giving too many fucks about small insignificant things, this probably means you don’t have anything fuck-worthy in your life to begin with.
Whether you like it or not, you’re always looking for new things to give a fuck about. This is a normal human reaction to life, but make sure they are fuck worthy.
You truly being mature once you’ve established those honest, fuck worthy things in life.
The desire to have more positive experiences in life is in fact a negative experience. However, the acceptance of one’s negative experiences is, in return, a positive one.
Constantly pursuing feeling better all the time will cause you to become less satisfied, as you’re constantly confirming to yourself that you lack it in the first place.
Never hope for a life with zero problems, as this does not exist. Instead? Look for a life with better problems.
Our problems birth our happiness and along with that comes slightly better problems. However, at no point do our problems completely vanish.
A true measurement of one’s worth is focused more so on how they feel about their negative experiences, rather than what they do to turn them into positive experiences.
A person’s happiness can be measured by the amount of acceptance one has for their negative counterparts.
A happy and successful person will stop and look at themselves and say, ” Yes, maybe I suck at this” and “Yes, maybe I lose things all the time”. But instead of focusing on them, they embrace their imperfections and work on upgrading those imperfections to better imperfections.
Better to accept life isn’t perfect and be happy, they to constantly chase an impossible type of life.
People become worried that if they accept this mediocre style of life, that they themselves become mediocre in life. However, in contrary, people who accept that they are not great, become great by acknowledging these imperfections and perfecting them.
My Final Conclusion …
My #1 take way after reading Mark Mansons book, and completing my The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck review:
Happiness comes from problems you enjoy having and solving.
Coming from someone who suffers from OCD, it’s extremely hard to accept somewhere out there there isn’t a “perfect life”. That I will never achieve a life with no problems.
However, a small part of me loves that I don’t have to worry about finding it because I know it doesn’t exist.
Mark explains that the key to a happy life is loving your unhappy experiences. And each time you do this, your unhappy experience becomes less unhappy.
I would definitely suggest to anyone who doesn’t’ mind a bit of vulgarity, and who doesn’t mind getting some hard life facts should click this link and either grab the audio or the physical book.
It has some good laughs, and some great truth!
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Until next time!